Taking the DiSC Everything Workplace Profile

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I don’t know why, but not for the first time in a college-level class have I had to take a personality test. I mean, it’s had its purpose in either situation, I guess. It’s always been in writing and communications classes, so yeah–I guess there is a purpose for it.

I don’t like personality tests. I find that while they’re a valuable tool for self-awareness, a lot of people instead use them to justify their actions or why they “can’t deal” with certain people or situations. Kind of like with astrology–which I don’t believe in, either (partly because people take forever trying to guess my sign–swear to God, they guess Sagittarius twice and work through all the other signs at least once before they get to Gemini; partly because they treat me different when they find out I’m a crazy, two-faced Gemini; and I’ll tell you the last reason later on.)

I won’t start on why I hate the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. This post is going to be wayyy too long if I do that.

Anyway, I don’t like personality tests, and I rolled my eyes a bit when it came up in class that we were going to take one. However, this one has a more professional slant with a focus on how you work and how to work with people who are different from you in the workplace (am I the only person on the planet who thinks you just have to learn how to adapt to other people’s personalities and you don’t need a test to figure it out?).

The DiSC model has been around for a few decades now. D is for Dominant, i is Influence, S is for Steadiness, and C is for Conscientiousness. Some people are a solid D, or i, or S, or C, and other people can be a blend of these. The DiSC model also emphasizes that all styles and priorities are equally valuable in the workplace and no one style is better than any other. It also emphasizes building more effective working relationships through self-awareness and awareness of others.

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Anyway, it took me about 20 minutes and after that, my results were spat out into a nice little report, which I had to print out and bring to class.

I was not particularly surprised by my results–but I never really am. For the DiSC profile, I came up as an SC type–so I’m in the Steadiness group, but with a bent towards Conscientiousness. In summary, I like consistency and I aspire to be someone people can count on. Communication-wise, I am soft-spoken and seem approachable–although to people who are more outgoing, I am sometimes hard to read. The Conscientiousness part comes into play with my attention to detail and my desire to do things right the first time.

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I marked up the report after printing it, not knowing that we would be marking them up in class (the black pen is before class, the green writing is from class).

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However, like some people who take the DiSC profile, I had more than three priorities (everybody who takes it has at least three priorities). I had four. Being an SC type, my first three priorities were Maintaining Stability, Giving Support, and Ensuring Accuracy. The fourth one, which my report says “is somewhat unusual for someone with the SC style,” is Offering Challenge.

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Basically, I like to point out the flaws in other people’s ideas. I sometimes describe myself as a “no” person–I like to say “no” to other people, especially when I feel like they haven’t weighed the pros or cons or thought hard enough about something. I also am critical of things that lack common sense or logic. Yes, this might be explained simply by saying “I’m an asshole,” but I also think it ties into my desire for accuracy.

Back to the last thing I don’t like about other personality tests or astrology–they often don’t allow room for or acknowledge the role that life experiences play in shaping one’s personality. The DiSC actually does acknowledge life experience on the first page of the report. For example, Collaboration is not listed as one of my priorities. And I don’t hate working with others, but I’m generally quite skeptical of it–the result of being “the smart girl” and having to do most of the work on group projects in school (…and now I’m having flashbacks to biology during junior year).

Finally, to wrap this post up, the back of my report has a summary of how I can adapt to interacting with and communicate more effectively with people across all types. The advice I saw across all of them could easily be paraphrased as “don’t be passive; speak up more!!!”

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All in all, I am glad I got to take this test for free; I wouldn’t have taken it otherwise. I also think it’s not as bad as other personality tests out there.

Next Steps

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About a month before I graduated from college, I panicked. I’d spent four years studying, going to class and work (3 jobs at once!), writing more papers than I could count, and then I realized–I don’t want to do this. I don’t have what it takes to succeed in this field. I don’t have the personality that potential employers are looking for in college grads.

Because I was panicking, I reached out–not to my parents, but to my adviser. Because I thought she’d have some insight. That she’d tell me what I needed to do–sad to say, but I don’t think that going to college taught me how to be a free thinker; it made me even more insecure and instilled in me a desire to be told what to do.

“I think you need more time,” she said.

She also said she didn’t think I’d be successful. In grad school, specifically, but maybe she meant in general. It felt like she meant in general. It’s hard to hear someone who you trust say that they don’t think you will be successful, whether it be academics, a professional career, or life at large.

I started crying in her office and I don’t think I’ve really stopped in the three and a half years since graduation. As I walked across the stage at the Breslin Center, I was handed a rolled-up proxy diploma. I was supposed to step up to a line, smile, and wave into the camera so all the people in attendance could see how happy I was to be a graduate of Michigan State University. I stepped up to the line, smiled quickly, then stared into the camera as my face fell. My family, with their cameras pointed at the jumbotron, laughed about it–typical Shelby.

I wasn’t happy to be graduating. People were going on and on about the world being our oyster, how the future was ours for the taking, and think now about what you can do for the world, #spartanswill. All I could think about was how I would literally be going back to my parents’ basement to look for jobs in a field I wasn’t sure I wanted to be in. I could go to graduate school, but for what? I had already devoted the majority of my life to school–and I had worked my ass off. And now I was facing an indeterminate amount of time before I could be gainfully employed and able to move on with my life.

It took forever. For every twenty jobs I applied to, I only heard back from one, and fewer than one were actually requests for a phone or in-person interview. My self-esteem and self-worth crashed horribly during this period. I took what was supposed to be a temporary job at a restaurant just because I had to do something. I was there for over a year before I was hired as a secretary somewhere else.

Over this three-year period, starting about six months after I graduated, my parents–but mom especially–started bringing up graduate school. That I should think about applying. That maybe it will help me get a better job. Don’t worry about the money. If you want to go, go.

And the whole time that was going on, I was flip-flopping on the issue myself: I want to go. I won’t be successful. I miss school. What would I even study? I want to teach writing at a community college. A Master’s degree is going to overqualify me and then I really will struggle with finding a job. I’m going to prepare my writing samples this week! I’m worried about the money and the time.

I never did go. What it came down to was the money, the time, and the fact that I wasn’t sure I’d be able to get a better-paying job with a graduate degree. My current employers are famous for never giving their employees a raise–how can I afford grad school? I’ve spent so much time in school already; can’t I just move on with my life?

And to be honest, I am still not sure that a Master’s degree will help me find a job that will pay me a good salary.

But I’m going.

I caved a few weeks ago and applied to a graduate program at the local business college. For a Master of Science in Finance. I got in. And furthermore, I found a program that works for me. I could have started taking classes immediately, but I decided that I will start in January.

This is my next step. I don’t know what it will bring–but just about anything is better than what I have going on in my life right now.

LIFE LATELY

A picture from Independence Day, which I didn't write a post about

A picture from Independence Day, which I didn’t write a post about

I borrowed this idea from Desiree because I haven’t posted anything real in a while and I feel guilty about it.

A few things have happened recently! Not a whole lot. I had a birthday at the end of May (why I’m telling you about this in almost-August, I don’t know). I am 24 years old now, and while this makes no sense at all, I feel no different being 24 than I did 23, even though 23 was a really difficult year for me and 24 has been not-miserable. I was so happy to turn 24 and tell 23 to kiss my ass.

My mom got a Barnes and Noble membership, so I’ve been reading and buying books. Not including all of the used books I bought for my birthday, too. Meg Cabot’s Royal Wedding came out in June, and she really hasn’t changed much, HRH Princess Mia, but I won’t lie, I still loved reading this newest Princess Diaries book as much as I loved reading the others as a tween and a teen.

In addition to that, and rereading Ken Follett’s Kingsbridge books, I read a book last weekend called Broken Monsters by Lauren Beukes. I was excited to read it, but very quickly I started calling it Broken Book because it was bad. I gave it two stars on Goodreads. (ALSO: When people who live in/near Detroit read books set in Detroit and think “Where are all the Black people?” you have a problem)

A few weeks ago Arthur Chu wrote this post for Thought Catalog (which, I really kind of hate TC but Arthur Chu wrote it and I quite like him and his writing) about one of my favorite shows, Dollhouse, Joss Whedon, and Hollywood. I appreciate that Arthur Chu, who is also a fan of Dollhouse and a fan of Joss Whedon, is okay with acknowledging that the show isn’t without its problems. To criticize something that people like can throw fandoms into an uproar (but Dollhouse was cancelled in 2009, so people may look around and say “What fandom?” at this point, I suppose). Not that Joss Whedon doesn’t ever get negative backlash; the response to Avengers: Age of Ultron from early May is still clear in my mind. The post by Chu makes many good points, but among those is My Fave is Problematic And It’s Okay to Know That And Still Like It.

(And yes, I re-watched all of Dollhouse after reading, just for the sake of it. Boooyd! #NotOverIt)

Then there was this piece, “How Not to Be Elizabeth Gilbert,” published by the Boston Review. It’s about travel writing but also about not being “an obnoxious white lady in brown places.” The piece says a lot about travel writing, things I agree with. Not only are successful travel writers typically male, but a potentially dangerous trait of the travel writing genre is that one’s self is the center of attention, and the location (however exotic, however beautiful, however whatever) is just the backdrop.

(It also reminds me of that time my 11th-grade English teacher was reading Eat, Pray, Love, and loving it, and would most likely be that obnoxious white lady in brown places)

IGGPPC is having their second annual summer camp in August! It’s not real sleepaway camp, which I never did, but I participated in some of the activities last year, like the care package swap and some Google Hangouts-based events! It’s a lot of fun!

Also, in spite of being a shiksa, I love reading the pieces at Tablet Mag, and they’ve done a few pieces this summer about summer camp. I liked reading about all the things Marjorie Ingalls’s daughters learned at camp, as well as this piece about how her experiences at camp shaped Margot Kohn’s positive relationship with her body.

Common Room had Potter Week, which is likely a good thing. Harry Potter was one of my early fandoms, but I couldn’t for the life of me think of anything to write along Potter-inspired lines. I like Hadas’s post about crackpot theories (because who doesn’t love a good crackpot theory?). Who doesn’t love a good fan theory, period?

What have you read lately? How is life treating you?

DRAGON’S LOYALTY AWARD

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I was nominated for this fun Dragon’s Loyalty Award by Rosa from Gingerbread Sagas. Thank you very much for the nom, Rosa!

The rules

1. Visit and thank the blogger who nominated you.
2. Acknowledge that blogger on your blog and a link back.
3. You must share 7 things other bloggers may not know about you.
4. Nominate up to 15 bloggers for Dragon’s Loyalty Award.
5. Copy and paste the award somewhere on your blog.

7 random facts you might not know about me
1. Water might be my favorite thing. I like to drink it, swim in it, go tubing on it, to shower in it, watch it fall as rain or snow… I like rivers, lakes, and oceans. My home state is quite literally (mostly) surrounded by water (on three sides). I really like the stuff.

2. I get annoyed when I see girls posing pigeon-toed for pictures. I was born with something similar to pigeon toes and had to wear corrective shoes to fix it, and even then, my feet are still kind of messed up in spite of it. So even though I guess it’s cutesy and makes your thighs look smaller, I find it irritating as all get-out when I see people intentionally doing it in pictures.

3. One of my life goals is to travel to Antarctica. Other places too, but Antarctica is The Big One.

4. I have at least 5 ideas for creative writing projects happening at any one time. However, I am somehow both a perfectionist and incredibly unfocused, which is why I can’t seem to finish (or in some cases, start) a writing project. It’s a major source of frustration for me. (Additional fun fact: I wanted to write a book of essays called One of Those Girls, but then Lena Dunham wrote a nonfiction book with a similar title. Thanks a lot, Lena Dunham.)

5. If I were hosting a movie marathon on the Turner Classic Movies channel, the four movies I’d pick would be The African Queen, Splendor in the Grass, Silence of the Lambs, and something lighter (like, wayyyy lighter after SitG and SotL) like Friday.

6. If there were such a thing as a mental condition where one thinks everything they see in movies and television is based on Shakespeare’s plays (but mostly Hamlet), I’d have that. Somehow I am convinced that most of the things I watch are somehow influenced by Shakespeare. The Lion King and Sons of Anarchy, yeah, for sure. But Weeds? I’m not sure how I decided that Weeds is based on Hamlet.

7. One of my best friends has described me as “very contrarian,” to which my response was obviously, “I AM NOT!” Yup. That’s me.

Was any of that particularly shocking to you?

Thanks again for the nomination, Rosa! For the next round, I nominate:

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041715_1Hi, all! I hope you had great weeks and that your weekend plans go off without a hitch! I have a friend from high school coming to visit until tomorrow morning, and also, I am SO PSYCHED for the new season of Orphan Black, which is premiering tomorrow night on BBC America and all AMC networks! Toni is coming over to watch with me, so it’s gonna be a great time!

(Also shout out to my little booger, Boone, who turned two this week! It’s like he came home just yesterday! I’ll never forget how BIG his paws were in relation to the rest of his little puppy body!)

Meg and a friend are creating a new chapter of Geek Girl Brunch… in Grand Rapids, MI!

Kacie did the Chocolate Book Challenge, which pairs two of my favorite things together: reading and chocolate! Reading is so delicious!

This BookRiot essay about why it can’t be necessary to sugarcoat YA (I have never been so happy to read a piece about YA in my life)

There was an article in the NYT that demonized Millennials and sang praise for a generation of kids just barely out of high school… and makes me want to scream

My little cousin has been vlogging and last week he and my grandma came to visit me. If you go to 6:14 you can see what he thinks of me. I think he sums me up pretty accurately. (It is hard for me to accept his lumberjack beard though because he’s my baby cousin)

If I’m going to share links to videos, I can’t share this one often enough!: a short film by my friend Erin Cohen and her friend Imogen Hopper about a girl whose dream is to be on Shark Week

ALSO: I review nonfiction books for IGGPPC, and there is definitely no shortage of nonfiction books out there but I wanted some suggestions, if you have any, of books whose subject matter falls outside of the United States. I would love for my nonfiction selections to become more diverse and to include works by authors whose first language isn’t English, or more generally, who are not from the US or Western Europe. If you have any suggestions, tweet at me or give them in the comments below!

What caught your attention this week?

 

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Processed with VSCOcamHey, everyone! How are you this week? This week was pretty exciting for me: I had more visitors to my apartment, I made some pretty awesome chicken (recipe to come next week!), and it looks like my baby plants are finally showing some signs of life (as seen above)! Here are some links to keep you busy for maybe an hour this weekend. Good stuff, these:

*first things first* THERE IS AN EXCERPT OF THE UPCOMING PRINCESS DIARIES BOOK (due out June 2) ON WATTPAD (!!!!!)

HERE HAVE ANOTHER ONE (!!!!!)

AND ANOTHER (!!!!!)

as Harper points out in her April to-do list, April is STD Awareness Month and the CDC wants you to know that; I encourage you to get tested, as well as talking to your partner about your sexual history and being honest about it!

it’s 90s Week on Like Gwen Stacy, where Gwen’s waxing nostalgic about fashion, toys, music, and more!

this glitter mug tutorial from BUST

this BookRiot piece about Johnny Tremain (which I used to wish people would write more fanfiction about… I’m not making this up!) and its relevance to the 1940s when it was published

this discussion of YouTube and its need to promote diverse content, but more specifically the work of POC

in light of Dear Kate’s “First Time” ad, media outlets are speculating whether the conversation around periods is finally changing

What links caught your eye this week?

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I cleaned out my purse last night. All those papers were IN MY PURSE IN ENVELOPES. My purse now feels 11 million pounds lighter.

I cleaned out my purse last night. All those papers were IN MY PURSE IN ENVELOPES. My purse now feels 11 million pounds lighter.

Oh, boy! What a busy week! I am still in the process of winding down from my move last week (I HAVE SO MANY TOILETRIES! HOW DID I GET SO MANY TOILETRIES?!) and winding down from how unbelievably AWESOME the season finale of The Walking Dead was. There was some good news, too, for someone else in my family: my little sister was accepted into a graduate program!

There were a lot of things this week that caught my attention. Enjoy your weekend reading, guys!

this chocolate recipe by Emily at Dairy Free Since ’03

this piece Jessica Valenti did for the Guardian about men, Instagram, and the female body

Bookriot’s post about ways you can support female authors

folks at my alma mater, Michigan State University, had a short-lived riot & threw bagels at the cops after we made it to the Final Four (I have laughed about this pretty much every day this week)

Cards Against Humanity launched a science pack AND formed a full-ride scholarship to women seeking undergraduate degrees in STEM

This article about the Rez Condom Tour supplying condoms to the Navajo Nation

What caught your eye this week?